Life is…
As a child I remember the first day I went to the school campus on Hill Road. I remember that my mother took a job in Beacon House so that I, her son, could attend what was considered the best school in the country at that time. The year was 1984 and I was just a second grader going into third grade.
I remember we had to wear shorts in the winters. And a big blazer over two sleeveless sweaters meant that everyone in the class looked like they were just wearing their blazers and had forgotten to put on their pants over their knee high navy blue socks and shining oxford shoes. I made friends fairly quickly, for we all shared the same problems, our legs froze in the morning assembly, and we all feared being called up on the podium to sing the national anthem. Going through school all I knew was that I am a Muslim. I didn’t know which kind, for Muslim was just a Muslim. None of my friends knew either, and we never even thought about it. For the biggest concern was always to convince our parents to buy us a challi from the challi-waala. I also remember the question popped up in sixth grade when a politician’s son joined our class and asked me what kind of a Muslim I am, and I didn’t know what he meant.
Life is beautiful…
Over the years I found out the kind of a Muslim I am, but it still didn’t matter, for I was a Muslim, and that meant I loved peace and harmony. That was my interpretation of the religion, for all the prophet’s stories I read showed how forgiving he was.
I was gone for two years in-between when my parents wanted to leave the country (Zia’s time was tough on so many) and I discovered a whole new life in the States. There I made friends from all over. My Jewish home room teacher doted on me, I went to the school prom with a girl who traced her roots to Vietnam, and I was best friends with two Caucasians and an African American. At home I hung out with a boy who wore a turban and had beautiful hair, a Filipino, and a girl who called herself the Chicano Queen! We shared snacks, laughter and numerous adventures around the little stream behind our apartments.
Life is a wonder…
Then one day we packed up and flew back, for home called out to my parents and they couldn’t resist the urge anymore. I went back to the same school, still a little confused, for everyone in my family somehow treated me differently, except perhaps my nephew who loved me and remembered me from his childhood. School had shifted buildings (houses rather) and this time I went to a campus on Nazimuddin road. But I met the same friends again, and things became comfortable again. Soon enough I was going to the Margalla campus in H-8 and was part of the first A-Levels batch of our school. Times were great.
My friends and I loved jumping over the school walls and heading to the dhaaba nearby and enjoying numerous cups of tea and their wonderful daal. Smoking was fun, specially sitting on our beach (a little enclave of sand around the famed Islamabad naala). The thought of going to expensive restaurants never crossed our minds for fun was where we all were. Going to Jinnah Super meant having an ice-cream cone or coffee (which no one liked but everyone had for it was so mature to enjoy a cup of coffee). Vanguard books was the best bookshop in the world, but the beautiful original books that were a treat to hold and smell were always a little too expensive for a student like me. But Islamabad housed some wonderful old book shops with an unlimited amount of comic books and novels.
Life is perfect…
Going out to eat at Sams or Black Beards was fun and nothing was pretentious. Dinners at Papasalis were intimate, and going out on a date was dangerous for cops would pull you over and swindle you out of your last dime. Soon A-Levels was over. Everyone had scraped their hearts and knees with love gained and lost and the next step was college. While most of my friends went out of the country, the others left the city. I went into FAST and stayed in the city. Once again as part of the first batch. Our campus was a pretty little house in Bazaar Road. Soon I had made some wonderful friends and walking around G-6 in those pretty little streets ate up all our free time. We spoke of everything, love, music, life, poetry, books…we even discussed our futures or the kind of jobs we wanted.
But things had already begun to change. Sams had closed down and Black Beards was going down. Pir Suhawa was still a wonderful getaway, be it on our bikes or our cars. Going there with the girls in our class was never a problem for everything was always safe and their families never objected to the unplanned excursions. We hiked there as much as we drove, and when the sun went down the only fear was of wild monkeys and crazed dogs.
Life is serene…
University was soon done with, imparting all the wisdom you can only get by burning your hands; professional life began. It was all about hard work. Proving my cousins wrong, who said you cannot get anything without a recommendation from someone powerful or a bribe. Somehow everything worked out, within days I was at a job working my way up the corporate ladder.
Then things started to change even more. The towers went down and I sobbed watching TV for one of the best days I spent in the City as a kid was on the roof of one of the twins looking out at the world beneath my feet, shouting screaming and running around. Then Afghanistan was ripped to pieces. I realized how a bomb never distinguished between who it blew up, restricted by it nature to just blow up. There were often images of torn limbs and broken babies on TV. This had all been going on for a long time in Palestine / Israel, and even though I felt strongly about it, it was too far away. Unlike the famine in Africa, this was all man-made.
Life is confusing…
Then I travelled to the States after about 15 years. I was shocked by how much air travel had changed. You were not allowed to smoke in the plane, and you were never allowed to relax in the airports. Special Screenings, interviews at five different counters to get in, and every interviewee looking at you threatened, as if fearing that you were ticking and about to go off. I remembered how that last time I came we just got off the plane, got our luggage and walked out into the wintry gales of New York City! This time it took me a little over four hours to just get to the luggage belt.
Over the years it all became routine, and like clockwork I would take off my shoes, belts, remove all metallic objects and stand to be directed like a puppet. Move now, stay extremely still sir, place your feet on the foot marks and move your hands up. I am going to frisk you now sir. Sir could you turn on your laptop please…
Things went from bad to worse, Soon Iraq was ravaged on justification that would amaze an illusionist. London was hit by further blasts, even Spain wasn’t spared. Things in the older problem centers kept on going from bad to worse and beyond. Globally it felt like West vs Islam and the fight had just gotten into the third round.
Life is a revelation…
Islamabad kept changing as well. Gone was the comfort of big scattered trees. How the city smelled of an Elven habitat when it rained…all just a fond memory. Trees were cut down to provide security to the heads of State. Barriers were put up everywhere. Suicide bombers introduced themselves to the city. And suddenly (inexplicably) the city got a night life. New, up-scale, ostentatious restaurants where youth gather that represented the elite, the modern, the open-minded, popped up everywhere. I was a bit taken aback how being moderate meant dressing like you had walked out of the latest issue of Cosmo. While one groups of moderates went to this extreme, the other group of moderates that practised their religion quietly grew big beards and became loud about how only they had the right to decide what was right for everyone. Slowly they took the streets and built a fort around Lal-Masjid. Suddenly dreams had were justification enough to go against what was written in black and white in the book.
Life is a nightmare…
Yesterday it all broke out in utter pandemonium specially for the special city. I sat in front of my TV screen helpless at not being able to do anything, not because I can’t but simply because I don’t even know which side of the BULLSHIT to buy.
Today I feel the same as this city I love. Ripped apart to build all the roads and underpasses, bombed and shot to allow the mercenaries of faithless extremes expression, and broken down to pave the way for a new tomorrow.
Life is…about to change…- like this city over the past 40 odd years
- like my perceptions over 30 odd years
In my 27 years of existence never have I seen my country in so much turmoil.
- Floods
- The massacre in Karachi
- The President vs Chief Justice fiasco
and now LAL Masjid.
I can only stand on the side and see events as they unfold. I do not like where we are going. Nations mature over time, they learn from the past and try not to make the same mistakes again. For us however it seems that we are locked in a continuous and vicious cycle that keeps repeating itself over and over and over again
. It is truly a very depressing state of affairs. May also forgive us for our sins.
very well written fraz, extremely touching and thought provoking.
This needs to be published my friend
ok that smilie is inappropriate for a piece as depressing as this. I take that back.
Going through school with Fraz, I knew exactly what type of Muslim I was
The one that loved hanging out at the rock pool with two of my best friends. For some strange reason I also remember a dripping Nafdec cenima – I don’t know why.
And the challi walla was never that big a concern for me as were the masala chips from the canteen that Aunti owned.
Oh yes! The hikes over the rock pools behind Faisal Masjid, realizing a friend has brought a knife as big as his shin for protection, and swimming in the freshest / sweetest water ever. Getting raided by a horde of butt nacked children materializing out of thin air…the coffee at Nafdec Cinema canteen, oh the coffee…in the dripping weather…
Thank you for the comments guys…
fraz have you seen this movie “silent waters-khamosh pani”? if not, its def recommended.
hey, i like it so much.its very well written n u have made us all think about this major problem of the world in a simple n touching way.
Nice one Fraz. Change really is part of all our lives. Every step of the way lifes changes bring new feelings and challenges. Also, the lal masjid facade, very very sad. Again, nicely written buddy.
very touching, thought provoking and just so nice. loved it! great and very sincere job done
Heart wrenching and enlightening. ‘Pardesis’ like me are not aware of what is going on in Pakistan. I am forever looped in the vicious cycle of getting an education and making enough money to make ends meet. It makes me realize and reflect on how inherently empty and numb I have become to all that goes on in the land where once the green grass grew. Question is, do I even care? Do I have it in me now, after tasting what life can be away from home, to actually head back to my roots and start afresh, or maybe continue where I left off? The answer is brutal and honest: I don’t know. It is sad to see these changes through your eyes, it is saddening still to know that I don’t have the same intensity of emotions as you. You have inspired me to write my own story, my perception of life in the last 22 years. This piece was heartfelt. Bravo!
Thanks guys for the kind words. I hope we can all look at these days to come in terms of not the lives ended prematurely. But for the life within us, appreciating it, nurturing it, and adoring it…all the while remembering the lives that couldn’t do so.
I am sitting in a silent lonely room in a country that I don’t know yet, and do no know if I ever will. My home burns, and you’ve captured it well. We don’t know how things are ever, do we? Life burns…
10/10
I’ve been the last one amongst the readers of RIL to read this wonderful piece. It’s very well written. When you go thru something so short, covering so much, you REALLY get to see how many big event have taken place in the past few years. The state of affairs in our country is truly depressing and regardless of which side is right or wrong, the things that depresses me most is how cheap human life has become. bombing, killing, dead bodies are SO oftenly repeated words on the news that I feel like killing the newscaster sometimes for saying them out loud so casually.
I like ur style, its so simple and fluid! Definitely looking forward to more from u.